{"id":15924,"date":"2017-03-22T13:19:51","date_gmt":"2017-03-22T12:19:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.targettraining.eu\/?p=15924"},"modified":"2018-06-06T12:29:19","modified_gmt":"2018-06-06T10:29:19","slug":"active-listening-develop-making-little-noises","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.targettraining.eu\/de\/active-listening-develop-making-little-noises\/","title":{"rendered":"What is active listening, how do I develop it and should I be making little noises?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Listening skills are an integral part of many of our training solutions, e.g.\u00a0 <\/strong>Influencing<\/a>, <\/strong>Managing Conflict<\/a> and <\/strong>Facilitating meetings<\/a> all include practical components on listening skills. However, we had a rare request from a pharmaceutical client seeking training focusing solely on active listening for their senior managers. \u00a0The new board member strongly believed that improving her manager\u2019s listening skills would have a major impact on the quality of relationships and the effectiveness of her team. And she was right \u2026 the seminar started and almost immediately, one manager asked me, \u201cActive listening \u2013 that\u2019s just when you make little noises, right<\/em>?\u201d<\/strong>
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What is active listening?<\/h2>\n

Our tactful answer was \u201cnot quite\u201d.\u00a0 Active listening (as the name suggests) is when you actively and fully concentrate on what is being said, rather than just passively hearing the words.\u00a0 Communication theory breaks what is being said into two elements – the content and the context. Content is the what \u2013 the data, the facts, the information etc. Context refers to everything else that is going on when somebody speaks with you \u2013 the relationship, the background, the situation, the emotions etc.\u00a0 Active listening involves paying close attention to the content being shared AND the contextual components between the listener (the receiver) and the speaker (the sender). Skilled active listeners can hear the what PLUS interest, emotion, concern, energy and other contextual factors from the speaker\u2019s perspective. And they can hear what isn\u2019t being said.<\/p>\n

Why invest energy and effort in building your active listening skills?<\/h2>\n

The benefits of active listening are many.\u00a0 To start with you\u2019ll hear more \u2026 much more. You can enrich your understanding through gathering information and understanding the emotions. You will ask better questions through noticing the speaker\u2019s possible intent, and not only their words.\u00a0It helps you avoid or diffuse conflicts. Better listening means that solutions and discussion are stronger. Active listening is a building block for open, trusting and accountable relationships.<\/p>\n

7 practical tips for active listening
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Pay attention<\/strong><\/h3>\n

I mean REALLY pay attention to what is being said. Put aside distracting thoughts, try to block out environmental factors (side conversations, people watching etc) and listen holistically.<\/p>\n

Know your obstacles to listening<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Everyone is guilty of having \u201cinner conversations\u201d when listening \u2013 and whether it be judging, dreaming, solving or rehearsing what you want to say these common obstacles get in the way of active listening. Check out this blog post for more information<\/a> or download the .pdf version here<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Develop countermeasures for your obstacles<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Self talk to interrupt your distraction and refocus and internal paraphrasing can help. Basically, this sounds like you telling yourself \u201cStop it and focus on them not you<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n

Listen for context<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Approach a meeting with listening tasks such as learning the interests of others in the room and listening for the valued being created in the conversation.<\/p>\n

Dialogue approach<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Listen with a mind to understand what is being said and not judge what is being said.<\/p>\n

Listen with your eyes<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Listen to what they are saying, how they are saying it, \u201clisten\u201d to their body language and \u201clisten\u201d to their eyes.<\/p>\n

Provide feedback <\/strong><\/h3>\n

It is incredibly difficult not to filter, assume or judge when we listen. As an active listener your role is just to listen. Reflecting, restating and asking questions are essential \u2013 just make sure you are doing this to check you are understanding the content and context and not to discuss, negotiate, argue, influence, correct etc.<\/p>\n

So should I be making little noises when I actively listen, or not ?<\/h2>\n

Of course we also send messages when we listen IF we listen actively and affectively. In western cultures we expect some feedback from our listeners that indicates interest, from non-verbal messages such as nodding, smiles, eye contact and posture to small verbal comments like \u201cuh huh\u201d or \u201c \u201cI see\u201d. Do keep in mind thought that not every culture listens in the same way \u2013 and likewise not every individual listens in the same way. \u00a0A lack of \u201cums\u201d and \u201caahs\u201d doesn\u2019t always mean somebody is not listening.<\/p>\n

To wrap up<\/h2>\n

Active listening helps you to create an environment that supports deeper, more honest and authentic communication. Whether you are managing people, negotiating, discussing, influencing, problem solving, why wouldn\u2019t you invest the energy and effort in becoming a better listener?<\/p>\n

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